The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Inevitably, everyone, at one point or the other, has a friend or family member who succumbs to sickness. Unfortunately, this can cause grief, depression, stress, and even anxiety. Sadly, I am learning that it’s not easy to embrace the unknown. Eventually, we all have to come together in our lives to make crucial decisions regarding loss. We ask ourselves: how is this going to be solved?
Since 2011, my grandfather has fallen very ill. It’s caused great concern in my life and in my immediate family. It’s as if a ton of boulders have fallen onto me personally, yet it’s hurting us all. His health has slowly deteriorated, but there’s not much my family can do. My grandmother is taking care of him, making sure he has all he needs, but we are worried about her health as well. The nature of his illness is difficult to understand and leaves me/us feeling powerless. My parents are helping me to deal with and to prepare for whatever is coming, but it is still extremely hard to confront.
How should people deal with grief, especially with an elder family member? I don’t think there’s an easy answer, but I have been searching for one. For our family, it’s been a tough spot; there are not many options for us. Like Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said-we cannot stop grief, but there are tools that can help identify our emotions. In a situation such as this, it’s best to take a look at yourself: how are you handling the situation? As a friend or a family member’s sickness gets worse, you have to take charge of your own health in order to help yourself and others get through the grieving process. This is something I am slowly learning to do. The melancholy news can push you into a never ending black hole. Every day I try to fight against going into this black hole. Whenever the phone rings, I worry there might be bad news about Poppa….
…O, let America be America again —
The land that never has been yet —
And yet must be–the land where every man is free.
The land that’s mine — the poor man’s, Indian’s, Negro’s, ME —
Who made America,
Whose sweat and blood, whose faith and pain,
Whose hand at the foundry, whose plow in the rain,
Must bring back our mighty dream again.
Sure, call me any ugly name you choose —
The steel of freedom does not stain.
From those who live like leeches on the people’s lives,
We must take back our land again,
Kitsune in Japanese folklore are revered creatures, protecting the land from “kimon”, or demon gates. The woodland animals guard the demon gates to the northeast of Japan to keep evil at bay. They are envoys of Inari, the god of foxes and rice. Foxes guard the god’s shrines and defend whoever works, lives near, or comes to the shrine. The animals are bursting with honor and pride, and have their own ethics and ideals. The significance of kitsune and their beautiful folklore inspired me to create my shop, “FoxesAndThings”, which is based on this folklore. The majorities of original characters on the shop are inspired by their stories. I hope you like my small art show here at Concord Library!
15 year old Amaranthia Sepia (Eternal Brown Flower) Gittens-Jones is a homeschooled artist. She attended Pal International School and Nischimachi International School, Tokyo, Japan 2004-2006. Currently, Amaranthia is homeschooled in the USA. Amaranthia gave herself the artist name’AmaSepia Chan’ at age eight and declared her purpose: to become an artist. She has been on a focused and disciplined mission to achieve her goal since then. Her artist name was a combination of part of her first name and middle name. She adopted ‘Chan’ from the Japanese language. The honorific title is usually used for girls. Amaranthia now uses ‘AmaSepia’ or ‘Sepia’ as her signature. She has studied with acclaimed artist Ian Torney and teacher Sylvia Brofos of Kimball Art School, Concord, NH. She is recently took illustration classes with Australian artist and teacher Kim Roth. Amaranthia was awarded a full scholarship at Kimball Jenkins at age 12. She attended art classes, including adult classes, since then. Amaranthia is a monthly guest blogger for Iamthatgirl.com a non-profit organization for the empowerment of teens and young women. She makes yearly art donations to help individuals and charitable organizations. Her store Foxes And Things on Etsy was opened in March 2015. The ‘fox themed’ store was inspired by her love of Japanese ‘foxlore’ and mythology. Amaranthia is homeschooled and a full-time student at Virtual Learning Academy (VLACS). Foxes And Things Etsy was part of an experiential learning Opportunity (ELO) at VLACS this past school year.
SOLO SHOWS: Oscar Foss Library, Barnstead, NH October 2013
Chichester Public Library, Chichester, NH December 2013
NHTI Library, Concord, NH January 2014
The Works Café, Main St, Concord, NH February 2014
“Spring Art Exhibit,” Group Show Merrimack Bank Concord, NH April 2014
STUDENT ART SHOWS: Kimball Jenkins Art School, Concord, NH 2012-2015
RECENT DONATIONS: Rise Again Outreach, New Hampshire, March 2014 and 2015
The Friends Program and Kimball Jenkins Art School, Concord, New Hampshire, April 2014
Foxes And Things was part of an (ELO) Experiential Learning Opportunity. It was for my online English 2 high school course at (VLACS) Vitual Learning Academy in New Hampshire. This opportunity allowed me to discover social media, the basics of business like SEO etc, improve my writing and to find new career goals. There were many challenges but I am happy to say I overcame them and was able to make my final presentation to my teachers last night. Foxes And Things Etsy will remain and I continue to create the foxes I love but am now moving on to work on my pet writing project “Whimsy,” which was also a big part of the learning opportunity. I highly recommend this ELO course to VLACS students. Amaranthia (AmaSepia) 😊🐺☀️
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