Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the ‘true colors’ of an individual. It, on the contrary,becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound the explodes as something foreign, something very different than one’s natural self.” ― Criss Jami
Anger is a natural emotion. Of course, it can cause pain and stress to you and those around you. Sometimes it takes over our minds–either slowly building up because of an agitating inner dialogue or bursting forth like an unpredictable, massive volcano. This emotion can be so hazardous it could require therapy or anger management classes. Unresolved anger can cause an array of health issues such as heart attacks, insomnia, stroke, and high blood pressure. What can we do to lessen, or even eliminate, our extreme bouts of anger?
By: Amaranthia Gittens-Jones, Guest Blogger August 25, 2015
Promise yourself…To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. -Christian D. Larson, “Your Forces and How to Use Them”
Occasionally, there are days where I feel exhausted, frustrated, and just plain upset about a situation. During those times I find it helpful to remind myself of our vast universe. If someone looks out from space, and observes our planet, signs of life forms can’t be seen. If you look closer, we all look like tiny specks, almost like little ant colonies.
I realize from this observation that we are all just tiny creatures with fluctuating emotions. I’m able to let go of that pointless argument, an extremely rude person at the grocery store or even the person who breaks an important promise. Despite these irritating situations, I’ve discovered we should just live, and move on. There is so much more out there. If we dwell on negative thoughts it only causes stress. This thought has helped me let go of anxiety and stress, because I realize we are such a small part of the universe…
The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Inevitably, everyone, at one point or the other, has a friend or family member who succumbs to sickness. Unfortunately, this can cause grief, depression, stress, and even anxiety. Sadly, I am learning that it’s not easy to embrace the unknown. Eventually, we all have to come together in our lives to make crucial decisions regarding loss. We ask ourselves: how is this going to be solved?
Since 2011, my grandfather has fallen very ill. It’s caused great concern in my life and in my immediate family. It’s as if a ton of boulders have fallen onto me personally, yet it’s hurting us all. His health has slowly deteriorated, but there’s not much my family can do. My grandmother is taking care of him, making sure he has all he needs, but we are worried about her health as well. The nature of his illness is difficult to understand and leaves me/us feeling powerless. My parents are helping me to deal with and to prepare for whatever is coming, but it is still extremely hard to confront.
How should people deal with grief, especially with an elder family member? I don’t think there’s an easy answer, but I have been searching for one. For our family, it’s been a tough spot; there are not many options for us. Like Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said-we cannot stop grief, but there are tools that can help identify our emotions. In a situation such as this, it’s best to take a look at yourself: how are you handling the situation? As a friend or a family member’s sickness gets worse, you have to take charge of your own health in order to help yourself and others get through the grieving process. This is something I am slowly learning to do. The melancholy news can push you into a never ending black hole. Every day I try to fight against going into this black hole. Whenever the phone rings, I worry there might be bad news about Poppa….
“You said, ‘They’re harmless dreamers and they’re loved by the people.’ ‘What,’ I asked you, ‘is harmless about a dreamer, and what,’ I asked you, ‘is harmless about the love of the people? Revolution only needs good dreamers who remember their dreams.”-Tennessee Williams
I of becoming an artist from an early age and am determined to find a way to create my own business involving art. This was my vision since I was eight years old. I struggled to reach my ambitions because of people outside of my family telling me I ‘shouldn’t do art,’ ‘you should become a scientist,’ and ‘wait till you’re 18.’This year, I was able to open a small business on Etsy, allowing me to sell my ‘fox art.’ Even though this was an enormous advancement for me, there was a dilemma. There were many obstacles preventing me from opening the shop, even on the day it was going live.
I had to think deeply about what I was going to put on the shop, and had ideas and prototypes that didn’t work. Promotion, pricing, and delivery ideas had to be considered for the business.
The shop opening was rescheduled because my parents’ credit card information was hacked and stolen. This caused a major setback, making it so I couldn’t upload the shop for days. I feared my dream would be put on hold.
I couldn’t believe how many things were blocking me from creating a business, but I discovered that this is part of the experience of becoming an entrepreneur. There are people or situations discouraging you every step of the way. Having a dream and a concept is only the beginning, but not the end. You must remain open to change and ask for help and guidance. If something does not work, change it. Not everything you envision will thrive. It is important to keep trying and not be disheartened….
Originally posted at Craft a Gossip Magazine (link below)
Hey Everyone, Today I wanted to let you know about a very talented young artist, AmaSepiaChan. She just recently opened her etsy shop, Foxes and Things. I’m obsessed with the fox trend, and I love her art. Today I’m doing an interview with her, please take a moment to get to know her and stop by her shop.
Tell us a little about yourself, Where are you from?
I was born in North Hampton, Massachusetts in 1999. but I moved to Connecticut when I was about 3. I lived there until I was 4, and moved to Japan after my Dad got an expat deal there.We lived in CT for two years one year before leaving for Japan and one year after returning to US. Going to Japan was a life changing experience, even at 4 years old. I enjoyed seeing the temples and shrines and learning about the culture of the Japan. Attending International schools helped me meet people from around the world. When I came back to America and started first grade, I had to deal with constant bullying. I was very influenced by Japanese culture, which made it extremely difficult to find my footing, even though I was American. Degrading language was dieted at me throughout elementary school and most teachers were unsupportive. There were just a couple teachers who tried to understand me. The difficulties continued, even when I moved to NH at 8 years old. It was very hard to keep friendships and most eventually drifted away. No matter what I did or what my parents did, the bullying wasn’t solved. I started doing art at 7 years old, and I increasingly created art because of the stress from school. When I was in 7th grade, things came to a head. I tried to create an anti-bullying program about expressing yourself, and fighting against discrimination. Sadly, it failed, causing teachers and kids to treat me like an outcast. I left the school after falling ill….
“Great character is forged through hardships.” -Eiji Yoshikawa (1892 – 1962)
People always thank their triumphs, but seldom thank their obstacles. If we didn’t have obstacles, we wouldn’t learn lessons that could propel us forward. One of my favorite quotes is something along the lines of “when you run into an obstacle, think of yourself as a bow and arrow. In order for the arrow to hit its target, it has to be pulled backwards so it can be shot in its goal.” To reach an aspiration, you might be held back, but eventually you’ll get to where you want to be if you keep trying.
Always push through obstacles by remaining optimistic. Having a cynical outlook won’t get you anywhere. Constantly putting yourself down and letting negative voices fill your head decreases your self-esteem. Be self-assured while confronting obstacles. Stand strong and keep pushing at walls until they crumble.
I was diagnosed with an auto-immune condition in 2013 after seven years of bullying. Teachers at school would scarcely do anything to resolve it. I tried to construct an anti-bullying campaign, but teachers and students rejected it. I left school for good, a week early in June 2013, after becoming ill and stressed. In August 2013 I tested positive with an auto-immune condition and further tests were planned to clarify a number of other health issues. My health issues were directly linked to seven years of trauma from bullying. I worked hard to take charge of my health with the support of parents and doctors….☀️😊
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