Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the ‘true colors’ of an individual. It, on the contrary,becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound the explodes as something foreign, something very different than one’s natural self.” ― Criss Jami
Anger is a natural emotion. Of course, it can cause pain and stress to you and those around you. Sometimes it takes over our minds–either slowly building up because of an agitating inner dialogue or bursting forth like an unpredictable, massive volcano. This emotion can be so hazardous it could require therapy or anger management classes. Unresolved anger can cause an array of health issues such as heart attacks, insomnia, stroke, and high blood pressure. What can we do to lessen, or even eliminate, our extreme bouts of anger?
By: Amaranthia Gittens-Jones, Guest Blogger August 25, 2015
Promise yourself…To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. -Christian D. Larson, “Your Forces and How to Use Them”
Occasionally, there are days where I feel exhausted, frustrated, and just plain upset about a situation. During those times I find it helpful to remind myself of our vast universe. If someone looks out from space, and observes our planet, signs of life forms can’t be seen. If you look closer, we all look like tiny specks, almost like little ant colonies.
I realize from this observation that we are all just tiny creatures with fluctuating emotions. I’m able to let go of that pointless argument, an extremely rude person at the grocery store or even the person who breaks an important promise. Despite these irritating situations, I’ve discovered we should just live, and move on. There is so much more out there. If we dwell on negative thoughts it only causes stress. This thought has helped me let go of anxiety and stress, because I realize we are such a small part of the universe…
The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Inevitably, everyone, at one point or the other, has a friend or family member who succumbs to sickness. Unfortunately, this can cause grief, depression, stress, and even anxiety. Sadly, I am learning that it’s not easy to embrace the unknown. Eventually, we all have to come together in our lives to make crucial decisions regarding loss. We ask ourselves: how is this going to be solved?
Since 2011, my grandfather has fallen very ill. It’s caused great concern in my life and in my immediate family. It’s as if a ton of boulders have fallen onto me personally, yet it’s hurting us all. His health has slowly deteriorated, but there’s not much my family can do. My grandmother is taking care of him, making sure he has all he needs, but we are worried about her health as well. The nature of his illness is difficult to understand and leaves me/us feeling powerless. My parents are helping me to deal with and to prepare for whatever is coming, but it is still extremely hard to confront.
How should people deal with grief, especially with an elder family member? I don’t think there’s an easy answer, but I have been searching for one. For our family, it’s been a tough spot; there are not many options for us. Like Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said-we cannot stop grief, but there are tools that can help identify our emotions. In a situation such as this, it’s best to take a look at yourself: how are you handling the situation? As a friend or a family member’s sickness gets worse, you have to take charge of your own health in order to help yourself and others get through the grieving process. This is something I am slowly learning to do. The melancholy news can push you into a never ending black hole. Every day I try to fight against going into this black hole. Whenever the phone rings, I worry there might be bad news about Poppa….
Kitsune in Japanese folklore are revered creatures, protecting the land from “kimon”, or demon gates. The woodland animals guard the demon gates to the northeast of Japan to keep evil at bay. They are envoys of Inari, the god of foxes and rice. Foxes guard the god’s shrines and defend whoever works, lives near, or comes to the shrine. The animals are bursting with honor and pride, and have their own ethics and ideals. The significance of kitsune and their beautiful folklore inspired me to create my shop, “FoxesAndThings”, which is based on this folklore. The majorities of original characters on the shop are inspired by their stories. I hope you like my small art show here at Concord Library!
15 year old Amaranthia Sepia (Eternal Brown Flower) Gittens-Jones is a homeschooled artist. She attended Pal International School and Nischimachi International School, Tokyo, Japan 2004-2006. Currently, Amaranthia is homeschooled in the USA. Amaranthia gave herself the artist name’AmaSepia Chan’ at age eight and declared her purpose: to become an artist. She has been on a focused and disciplined mission to achieve her goal since then. Her artist name was a combination of part of her first name and middle name. She adopted ‘Chan’ from the Japanese language. The honorific title is usually used for girls. Amaranthia now uses ‘AmaSepia’ or ‘Sepia’ as her signature. She has studied with acclaimed artist Ian Torney and teacher Sylvia Brofos of Kimball Art School, Concord, NH. She is recently took illustration classes with Australian artist and teacher Kim Roth. Amaranthia was awarded a full scholarship at Kimball Jenkins at age 12. She attended art classes, including adult classes, since then. Amaranthia is a monthly guest blogger for Iamthatgirl.com a non-profit organization for the empowerment of teens and young women. She makes yearly art donations to help individuals and charitable organizations. Her store Foxes And Things on Etsy was opened in March 2015. The ‘fox themed’ store was inspired by her love of Japanese ‘foxlore’ and mythology. Amaranthia is homeschooled and a full-time student at Virtual Learning Academy (VLACS). Foxes And Things Etsy was part of an experiential learning Opportunity (ELO) at VLACS this past school year.
SOLO SHOWS: Oscar Foss Library, Barnstead, NH October 2013
Chichester Public Library, Chichester, NH December 2013
NHTI Library, Concord, NH January 2014
The Works Café, Main St, Concord, NH February 2014
“Spring Art Exhibit,” Group Show Merrimack Bank Concord, NH April 2014
STUDENT ART SHOWS: Kimball Jenkins Art School, Concord, NH 2012-2015
RECENT DONATIONS: Rise Again Outreach, New Hampshire, March 2014 and 2015
The Friends Program and Kimball Jenkins Art School, Concord, New Hampshire, April 2014
“You said, ‘They’re harmless dreamers and they’re loved by the people.’ ‘What,’ I asked you, ‘is harmless about a dreamer, and what,’ I asked you, ‘is harmless about the love of the people? Revolution only needs good dreamers who remember their dreams.”-Tennessee Williams
I of becoming an artist from an early age and am determined to find a way to create my own business involving art. This was my vision since I was eight years old. I struggled to reach my ambitions because of people outside of my family telling me I ‘shouldn’t do art,’ ‘you should become a scientist,’ and ‘wait till you’re 18.’This year, I was able to open a small business on Etsy, allowing me to sell my ‘fox art.’ Even though this was an enormous advancement for me, there was a dilemma. There were many obstacles preventing me from opening the shop, even on the day it was going live.
I had to think deeply about what I was going to put on the shop, and had ideas and prototypes that didn’t work. Promotion, pricing, and delivery ideas had to be considered for the business.
The shop opening was rescheduled because my parents’ credit card information was hacked and stolen. This caused a major setback, making it so I couldn’t upload the shop for days. I feared my dream would be put on hold.
I couldn’t believe how many things were blocking me from creating a business, but I discovered that this is part of the experience of becoming an entrepreneur. There are people or situations discouraging you every step of the way. Having a dream and a concept is only the beginning, but not the end. You must remain open to change and ask for help and guidance. If something does not work, change it. Not everything you envision will thrive. It is important to keep trying and not be disheartened….
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