Lingering, bottled-up anger never reveals the ‘true colors’ of an individual. It, on the contrary,becomes all mixed up, rotten, confused, forms a highly combustible, chemical compound the explodes as something foreign, something very different than one’s natural self.” ― Criss Jami
Anger is a natural emotion. Of course, it can cause pain and stress to you and those around you. Sometimes it takes over our minds–either slowly building up because of an agitating inner dialogue or bursting forth like an unpredictable, massive volcano. This emotion can be so hazardous it could require therapy or anger management classes. Unresolved anger can cause an array of health issues such as heart attacks, insomnia, stroke, and high blood pressure. What can we do to lessen, or even eliminate, our extreme bouts of anger?
By: Amaranthia Gittens-Jones, Guest Blogger August 25, 2015
Promise yourself…To give so much time to the improvement of yourself that you have no time to criticize others. To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear, and too happy to permit the presence of trouble. -Christian D. Larson, “Your Forces and How to Use Them”
Occasionally, there are days where I feel exhausted, frustrated, and just plain upset about a situation. During those times I find it helpful to remind myself of our vast universe. If someone looks out from space, and observes our planet, signs of life forms can’t be seen. If you look closer, we all look like tiny specks, almost like little ant colonies.
I realize from this observation that we are all just tiny creatures with fluctuating emotions. I’m able to let go of that pointless argument, an extremely rude person at the grocery store or even the person who breaks an important promise. Despite these irritating situations, I’ve discovered we should just live, and move on. There is so much more out there. If we dwell on negative thoughts it only causes stress. This thought has helped me let go of anxiety and stress, because I realize we are such a small part of the universe…
The five stages – denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance – are a part of the framework that makes up our learning to live with the one we lost. They are tools to help us frame and identify what we may be feeling. But they are not stops on some linear timeline in grief. -Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
Inevitably, everyone, at one point or the other, has a friend or family member who succumbs to sickness. Unfortunately, this can cause grief, depression, stress, and even anxiety. Sadly, I am learning that it’s not easy to embrace the unknown. Eventually, we all have to come together in our lives to make crucial decisions regarding loss. We ask ourselves: how is this going to be solved?
Since 2011, my grandfather has fallen very ill. It’s caused great concern in my life and in my immediate family. It’s as if a ton of boulders have fallen onto me personally, yet it’s hurting us all. His health has slowly deteriorated, but there’s not much my family can do. My grandmother is taking care of him, making sure he has all he needs, but we are worried about her health as well. The nature of his illness is difficult to understand and leaves me/us feeling powerless. My parents are helping me to deal with and to prepare for whatever is coming, but it is still extremely hard to confront.
How should people deal with grief, especially with an elder family member? I don’t think there’s an easy answer, but I have been searching for one. For our family, it’s been a tough spot; there are not many options for us. Like Elisabeth Kubler-Ross said-we cannot stop grief, but there are tools that can help identify our emotions. In a situation such as this, it’s best to take a look at yourself: how are you handling the situation? As a friend or a family member’s sickness gets worse, you have to take charge of your own health in order to help yourself and others get through the grieving process. This is something I am slowly learning to do. The melancholy news can push you into a never ending black hole. Every day I try to fight against going into this black hole. Whenever the phone rings, I worry there might be bad news about Poppa….
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